January 17, 2019

The latest about little old Marjorie and her little old beloved Alabaster

By John Guy LaPlante

Hello, my Friends,,

Your feedback tells me strongly that my sad tale of a few days ago about  Marjorie’s  ongoing heartache  interested many of you.

The wrenching dilemma she faces!  Put Alabaster out of his obviously failing health?  Or spend some of her severely limited funds for veterinary care that might not do much for him? Except assuage her  conscience maybe?  What’s best for Alabaster? What’s best for her?

Well, here’s the latest. From my point of view, not good.

On another morning walk down to Spencer’s Market, I did see her again.  I lit up with a big smile–was so happy to see her approaching. She was on the sidewalk on the other side of the street, coming toward me, a long block away. Again cradling poor old Alabaster in her arms.

As she drew closer, I gave her a great big wave.  But no response, which was strange. Of course, she was  carrying Alabaster, and surely that explained it.  But a  minute later, she took a sharp right turn into her supported-living  complex—a right turn that was not her usual  direction. Away from me!  And quickened her steps.  I was surprised.  And  so disappointed.

“Hi, Marjorie!” I yelled to her.  It had to be a yell.  She kept right on. Then hesitated. Then turned toward me and  gave me a tiny wave…the tiniest wave possible….then turned away and hurried toward wherever she was going,. This was  not the way back to her tiny apartment. I couldn’t believe it. Really couldn’t.

So, friends, what should I make of that? Did she feel  deep down that I had butted in? And resented it?  I myself felt I had been quite helpful.  Was proud to have given her a bit of emotional comfort. What do you think? Have I blundered?

Whatever the explanation, there’s not much I can do about it now.  I have left Monique and David’s after a wonderful visit and I’m on the road in my van again.  I’m heading south toward Los Angeles, approaching beautiful and deservedly famous Santa Barbara.  It will be months before I see Marjorie again, if ever.

I realize Marjorie’s heart has been aching non-stop. What’s best for Alabaster? What’s best for her? What to do? Yes,what to do?   So much on her mind. But now my heart is aching, too..

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  1. Nancy Simonds says:

    Listen John,

    All we can do in life is our best, especially to help others in need. That is exactly what you did. If you hadn’t called out to her, how would you feel? You’ve heard the cliche “How do you know if you don’t try?” WE don’t know what is best for Marjorie. Not sure she does either. But she’ll find her way and eventually find the comfort she needs. She did wave. But perhaps she simply didn’t wish, or couldn’t, talk. So close that door, pray for her and soldier on. And bless you for all you did on her behalf.

    Be well,
    ~ Nancy

  2. Lucie Fradet says:

    You tried you be helpful, as always. Take care. Lucie

  3. Joan Perrone says:

    John, you did the best that you could do. Maybe she is suffering from a little guile, knowing that perhaps the best thing to do is put him down; and doesn’t want to face it? Maybe she is still trying to come to grips with the situation, who knows? At least you know you tried.

    We’re on our way home from Georgia….day 1 of 3 days. You have a safe and enjoyable trip to warm California, while we head northward to the cold. 🙂 Joan and Frank

  4. Connie Fusco says:

    You did the right think by caring. Maybe in her sorrow she just couldn’t find it in herself to talk to anyone.

  5. People who grieve want to stay in grief, alone, without disturbing participation of others, without consolation because they are not capable to receive consolation.
    That’s probably why Marjorie turned away.

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